When I walked into the room to request an academic accommodation to receive an extension for two of the five assignments I had been due in the same week, I was hopeful that my feelings and my situation would be understood.
But I was wrong. Much to my dismay, I was basically told that it was my fault, that my anxiety was my fault.
It is my fault that I am a full time student working hard to achieve an 80+ GPA so that I can be accepted into any masters program of my choice.
A student who devotes herself body and soul to her work so that she can achieve her dreams and goals.
It’s my fault I’m a workaholic.
It’s my fault I’m in two time consuming positions, two major editor positions for two different magazines, as it is a requirement in my field of study to have this experience to ensure I ‘have a career later.
It’s my fault that I have to devote hours to this free work for my education and future goals.
Finally, it’s my fault that these issues (along with other private issues) have caused me so much distress that I spend over 13 hours in my campus library trying to complete whatever college requires. of a fourth year student.
It’s my fault that I’m so anxious, so there was little the school could do to help me get the housing I needed.
Well, I’m here to say that the way schools deal with mental health issues is absolutely horrible.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a fighter. In the four years that I spent in my school establishment, I never had to ask for accommodation until this year.
As someone who has worked with a personal counselor for several years due to anxiety and depression, if I am applying for housing for the first time, it is serious. Hell, I didn’t even ask for accommodation when my dad had a heart attack!
The point of all of this is that schools need to better ensure that the mental well-being needs of their students are met.
I was told that what I was going through was not the same as if there was a death in the family or if I was physically ill, and it is so wrong to tell a student in distress .
We’ve been talking about mental health for years, and it seems that society has made great strides in it; However, there are still so many people who share the belief that being mentally ill is not the same as physical illness.
I am here to tell anyone who suffers from mental health issues that your mental health is not your fault.
While some people may try to tell you otherwise, I am here to say that it is not.
It’s not your fault that you work hard because you have to, it’s not your fault that society is pressuring you to be a certain way or accomplish so many tasks in one day, and it is definitely not your fault if you are suffering from any type of mental health problem, be it anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder or anything else.
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It is not your fault that society does not understand the mental warfare that is going on in your brain every day of your life.
It upsets me tremendously that this is the way I have been treated, and it saddens me even more to know that people who are treated this way have no other options.
I am fortunate to have the means to see a personal advisor, but so many others cannot.
We have to be more careful with each other because you never know what the breaking point might be for someone. Thus, making them feel that their problems are not good enough to receive help.
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Christina Donati is a writer whose work has been featured on Thought Catalog, Diply, Narcity, MTL Blog, and Unwrite. For more of its content, visit it author profile on Not written.
This article originally appeared on Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.